{"id":4333,"date":"2013-04-16T10:41:02","date_gmt":"2013-04-16T17:41:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/?p=4333"},"modified":"2025-11-25T16:52:53","modified_gmt":"2025-11-25T23:52:53","slug":"four-steps-to-success-through-giving","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/four-steps-to-success-through-giving\/","title":{"rendered":"Four Steps to Success Through Giving"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0670026557?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=213733&amp;creative=393185&amp;creativeASIN=0670026557&amp;linkCode=shr&amp;tag=dragoeffec-20&amp;=books&amp;qid=1366049249&amp;sr=1-1&amp;keywords=give+and+take\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"4336\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/four-steps-to-success-through-giving\/giveandtake-cover\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/giveandtake-cover.jpg?fit=452%2C536&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"452,536\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Give and Take Cover\" data-image-description=\"&lt;p&gt;Give and Take by Adam Grant&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/giveandtake-cover.jpg?fit=452%2C536&amp;ssl=1\" class=\" wp-image-4336 alignright\" title=\"Give and Take by Adam Grant\" alt=\"Give and Take by Adam Grant\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/giveandtake-cover.jpg?resize=162%2C192&#038;ssl=1\" width=\"162\" height=\"192\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/giveandtake-cover.jpg?resize=252%2C300&amp;ssl=1 252w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/giveandtake-cover.jpg?w=452&amp;ssl=1 452w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 162px) 100vw, 162px\" \/><\/a>In his new book, <em><span class=\"removed_link\" title=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0670026557?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=213733&amp;creative=393185&amp;creativeASIN=0670026557&amp;linkCode=shr&amp;tag=dragoeffec-20&amp;=books&amp;qid=1366047333&amp;sr=1-1&amp;keywords=give+and+take\">Give and Take,<\/span><\/em>\u00a0our friend Adam Grant presents surprising stories about how we underestimate the success of givers\u2014people who consistently help others without expecting anything in return. Adam&#8217;s an academic, behind his stories are data, so you can dig in, understand and replicate his results. Here&#8217;s an excerpt from <em>Give and Take<\/em>\u00a0that Adam and I hand-picked for <em>Dragonfly<\/em>\u00a0readers. It covers actions for impact: practical steps for increasing your contributions to others.<\/p>\n<h3>1. Test Your Giver Quotient<\/h3>\n<p>We often live in a feedback vacuum, deprived of knowledge about how our actions affect others. To track your impact and assess your self-awareness, visit <a title=\"giveandtake.com\" href=\"http:\/\/www.adamgrant.net\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">giveandtake.com<\/a>. Along with filling out your own survey, you can invite people in your network to rate your style, and you\u2019ll receive data on how often you\u2019re seen as a giver, taker, and matcher.<\/p>\n<h3>2. Run a Reciprocity Ring.<\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"removed_link\" title=\"http:\/\/www.humaxnetworks.com\/tryonthering.asp\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"4349\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/four-steps-to-success-through-giving\/reciprocity_ring_metrics\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/reciprocity_ring_metrics.jpg?fit=288%2C334&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"288,334\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Humax Reciprocity Ring\" data-image-description=\"&lt;p&gt;Humax Reciprocity Ring&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/reciprocity_ring_metrics.jpg?fit=288%2C334&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"alignleft  wp-image-4349\" alt=\"The Humax Reciprocity Ring\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/reciprocity_ring_metrics.jpg?resize=185%2C216&#038;ssl=1\" width=\"185\" height=\"216\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/reciprocity_ring_metrics.jpg?resize=258%2C300&amp;ssl=1 258w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/reciprocity_ring_metrics.jpg?w=288&amp;ssl=1 288w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 185px) 100vw, 185px\" \/><\/span>What could be achieved in your organization\u2014and what giving norms would develop\u2014if groups of people got together weekly for twenty minutes to make requests and help one another fulfill them? For more information on how to start a Reciprocity Ring in your organization, visit Cheryl and Wayne Baker\u2019s company, <a title=\"Humax Networks\" href=\"https:\/\/web.archive.org\/web\/20180818051546\/http:\/\/www.humaxnetworks.com:80\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Humax<\/a>, which offers a suite of social networking tools for individuals and organizations. They\u2019ve created materials to run a <span class=\"removed_link\" title=\"http:\/\/www.humaxnetworks.com\/tryonthering.asp\">Reciprocity Ring in person<\/span> and a Ripple Effect tool for running it online. People typically come together in groups of fifteen to thirty. Each person presents a request to the group members, who make contributions: they use their knowledge, resources, and connections to help fulfill the request.<\/p>\n<h3>3. Help Other People Craft Their Jobs\u2014or Craft Yours to Incorporate More Giving.<\/h3>\n<p>People often end up working on tasks that aren\u2019t perfectly aligned with their interests and skills. A powerful way to give is to help others craft their jobs to work on tasks that are more interesting, meaningful, or developmental. Job crafting, a concept introduced by Amy Wrzesniewski and Jane Dutton, involves innovating around a job description, creatively adding and customizing tasks and responsibilities to match personal interests and values. A natural concern is that people might craft their jobs in ways that fail to contribute to their organizations. To address this question, Amy, Justin Berg, and I partnered with Jennifer Kurkoski and Brian Welle, who run a people and innovation lab at Google. In a study across the United States and Europe, we randomly assigned Google employees working in sales, finance, operations, accounting, marketing, and human resources to a job crafting workshop. The employees created a map of how they\u2019d like to modify their tasks, crafting a more ideal but still realistic vision of their jobs that aligned with their interests and values.<\/p>\n<p>Six weeks later, their managers and coworkers rated them as significantly happier and more effective. Many Google employees found ways to spend more time on tasks that they found interesting or meaningful; some delegated unpleasant tasks; and others were able to customize their jobs to incorporate new knowledge and skills that they wanted to develop. All told, Google employees found their work more enjoyable and were motivated to perform better, and in some cases, these gains lasted for six months.<\/p>\n<p>To help people craft their jobs, Justin, Amy, and Jane have developed a tool called the Job Crafting Exercise. It\u2019s what we used to conduct the Google workshops, and it involves creating a \u201cbefore sketch\u201d of how you currently allocate your time and energy, and then developing a visual \u201cafter diagram\u201d of how you\u2019d like to modify your job. The booklets can be ordered online (<span class=\"removed_link\" title=\"http:\/\/positiveorgs.bus.umich.edu\/cpo-tools\/job-crafting-exercise\/\">jobcrafting.org<\/span>) and completed in teams or individually to help friends and colleagues make meaningful modifications to their jobs.<\/p>\n<h3>4. Start a Love Machine.<\/h3>\n<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"4341\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/four-steps-to-success-through-giving\/sendlovelogo\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/SendLoveLogo.png?fit=385%2C195&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"385,195\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"SendLove\" data-image-description=\"&lt;p&gt;SendLove: The fun, easy and effective&lt;br \/&gt;\nemployee recognition system&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/SendLoveLogo.png?fit=385%2C195&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-4341\" alt=\"SendLove Logo\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/SendLoveLogo.png?resize=300%2C151&#038;ssl=1\" width=\"300\" height=\"151\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/SendLoveLogo.png?resize=300%2C151&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/SendLoveLogo.png?w=385&amp;ssl=1 385w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>In many organizations, givers go unrecognized. To combat this problem, organizations are introducing peer recognition programs to reward people for giving in ways that leaders and managers rarely see. A Mercer study found that in 2001, about 25 percent of large companies had peer recognition programs, and by 2006, this number had grown to 35 percent\u2014including celebrated companies like Google, Southwest Airlines, and Zappos. A fascinating approach called the Love Machine was developed at Linden Lab, the company behind the virtual world Second Life. In a high-technology company, many employees aim to protect their time for themselves and guard information closely, instead of sharing their time and knowledge with colleagues. The Love Machine was designed to overcome this tendency by enabling employees to send a Love message when they\u00a0appreciated help from a colleague. The Love messages were visible to others, rewarding and recognizing giving by linking it to status and reputations. One insider viewed it as a way to get \u201ctech geeks to compete to see who could be the most helpful.\u201d Love helped to \u201cboost awareness of people who did tasks that were sometimes overlooked. Our support staff, for instance, often received the most Love,\u201d says Chris Colosi, a former Linden manager. \u201cOnce you introduce a certain percentage of takers into your system, you need to think about what effect an incentive will have, but I enjoyed the idea of Love for tasks that were outside of someone\u2019s job description or requirements.\u201d<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_4375\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-4375\" style=\"width: 143px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"4375\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/four-steps-to-success-through-giving\/adamgrant-2\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/adamgrant1.jpg?fit=426%2C640&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"426,640\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;6.3&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;Canon EOS 5D Mark II&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;July 31, 2012\\rWharton School of Business, U. Penn\\rPhiladelphia, Pa\\r\\rAdam M. Grant, PhD, an associate professor of management, seen at Wharton this morning.\\r\\rMichael Kamber\/Bloomberg&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1343730817&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;50&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;400&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.00625&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Adam Grant\" data-image-description=\"&lt;p&gt;July 31, 2012&lt;br \/&gt;\nWharton School of Business, U. Penn&lt;br \/&gt;\nPhiladelphia, Pa&lt;\/p&gt;\n&lt;p&gt;Adam M. Grant, PhD, an associate professor of management&lt;\/p&gt;\n&lt;p&gt;Michael Kamber\/Bloomberg&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Adam Grant&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/adamgrant1.jpg?fit=426%2C640&amp;ssl=1\" class=\" wp-image-4375  \" alt=\"July 31, 2012 Wharton School of Business, U. Penn Philadelphia, Pa Adam M. Grant, PhD, an associate professor of management, seen at Wharton this morning. Michael Kamber\/Bloomberg\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/adamgrant1.jpg?resize=143%2C216&#038;ssl=1\" width=\"143\" height=\"216\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/adamgrant1.jpg?resize=199%2C300&amp;ssl=1 199w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/dragonflyeffect.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/adamgrant1.jpg?w=426&amp;ssl=1 426w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 143px) 100vw, 143px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-4375\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Adam Grant<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>To try out the Love Machine in your organization, look up a new electronic tool called <span class=\"removed_link\" title=\"http:\/\/www.sendlove.us\/trial\/index.php\">SendLove<\/span>. It\u2019s available from <span class=\"removed_link\" title=\"http:\/\/www.lovemachineinc.com\">LoveMachine<\/span>, a new start-up that asks you to start by choosing a recognition period. Team members can send each other short messages recognizing giving, and the messages are all publicly visible.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Reprinted by arrangement with Viking, a member of Penguin Group (USA) Inc., from Give and Take by Adam Grant. Copyright \u00a9 2013 by Adam Grant<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In his new book, Give and Take, our friend Adam Grant presents surprising stories about how we underestimate the success of givers\u2014people who consistently help others without expecting anything in return. Adam&#8217;s an academic, behind his stories are data, so you can dig in, understand and replicate his results. Here&#8217;s an excerpt from Give and Take that Adam and I hand-picked for Dragonfly readers. 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